Meeting Your Boyfriend’s Kids

When you first start dating someone with kids, everyone is all up in your business about when you are going to meet his kids. They are all going to give you their opinion on what’s best, whether you want to hear it or not.

I really don’t think you should listen to any of them.

How on earth can they possibly know what’s best for HIS children and YOUR relationship?

They don’t.

Now, do I think that if you’re someone who has a new relationship every other week that all these people should be meeting your kids? Heck no.

I have seen first hand my children get attached to several of their mom’s boyfriends and then one day the boyfriend just “moved away.” The boys bring them up all the time and ask to see them and we just have to kind of brush them off.

In our case, Alex and I both knew very quickly that we weren’t just some fling. We were in it for the long haul, and neither of us had any intention of going anywhere.

We had talked about the boys a ton, but hadn’t really talked about when I was going to meet them. I had just assumed it would take a while.

Well, it didn’t.

Alex and I went on our first date on a Tuesday, and that Friday I came over and met the boys for the first time.

I was SO FREAKING NERVOUS.

I knew I wanted to be with Alex forever, so I needed these boys to like me and I wanted to like them too.

I came over that night and we all played hide and seek (with dinosaur rawrs playing on the speaker), and watched Coco together. Everyone was happy and the boys were super excited to meet “daddy’s girlfriend.”

Our oldest son and I hit it off really fast. Since the first night I met him we have had a special bond. Abel and I took a while, but I will write about that some other time. 😉

Meeting the kids when I did was the best thing for our family. The boys were at a very tough time in their life and they needed me, and honestly I needed them too.

As Alex was introducing me to different people in his life, and as I was introducing him to different people in my life, they all asked if I had met the kids yet. We would always tell them no. We knew most people felt meeting the kids should be something that takes time, and I think honestly we just didn’t want anybody else’s opinion on it.

It’s been almost two years since I met the kids, and never once have I wished I met them later in our relationship. I wish I had even more time with them!

I am so glad we didn’t feel pressured into waiting to meet the boys. We did what felt right and it worked for us.

Meeting the kids should be something you both are ready for.

So, listen to other people’s advice, but in the end do what’s best for the kids and your relationship.

Because if I could’ve met these boys even sooner, I would have.