It’s My Turn To Be His Wife

When I started dating Alex it was a little more complicated than I initially anticipated. I learned on our very first date that I wasn’t only dating a man with kids, I was dating a man who was still legally married.

I know, I know. It doesn’t sound like that would be the smartest idea. BUT, if you’ve ever had to deal with the court system and the amount of time it can take to get divorced, you’d understand.

Yes, he was legally married, but he was far from being someone’s husband. Alex and the boys’ mother’s separation had taken place years before we even went on our first date.

Well, unknown to me at the time, you cannot simply date a woman’s legal husband, without there being some repercussions.

ANY time there was a disagreement with the boys’ mother, or any kind of encounter it was ALWAYS thrown in my face that “she was the wife.”

I would get texts almost every day that would say “please tell my husband….”, or “enjoy sleeping next to my husband….”, or “him and I will always be a family….”

There were times she would tell the doctors she was still Alex’s wife so I would be sent into the waiting room — unable to hold my sick step kids even though I was the one taking care of them all day and night.

You try not to let it get under your skin but oh my gosh it’s so frustrating and exhausting and I would just fume anytime I got those messages. It was hard to keep from getting mad at Alex after receiving messages like that.

His old life was just a constant reminder. One that we all wanted to move on from but couldn’t — at least not until a court said we could.

It took us thousands of dollars and almost two years of dating for that divorce to be finalized. We were engaged over a year and had set several wedding dates that came and passed with still no sign of a divorce decree coming.

BUT…

On September 6th the divorce was FINALLY granted.

We were so thrilled. We called our wedding venue on the car ride home from the courthouse and told them we wanted their soonest available wedding date. Our wedding was scheduled for October 12th — only 5 weeks later! We called all our family and told them we’d love for them to be there, but if they couldn’t make it, well we had to get married anyway.

And we did ♥️

October 12th was the best day of our lives. Alex and I finally became husband and wife and we were officially a family with our two boys.

I can’t tell you how much of a relief it was to finally say our vows and know that I was his wife now. There could be no more messages or facebook blasts saying how much of a “mistress” I was. No more talking about how the four of them were forever a family.

I married the most amazing man and gained the two most amazing kids. We have all been through a lot together and have had to adapt to a lot of change, but it all seemed to get a whole lot easier after the wedding.

From that day forward it has been just the four of us. All together under one roof every single day.

It’s finally mine and Alex’s turn to raise our family, and my turn to be his wife ♥️